Values: Defining What Truly Matters
Exploring Your Values Through the Lens of ACT
In life, we all have moments where we feel stuck, uncertain, or disconnected from what truly matters to us. Whether it's stress, anxiety, relationship struggles, or just the daily grind, it’s easy to lose sight of what’s important. One of the most powerful ways to regain clarity is by getting clear on your values—the things that matter most to you at your core.
What Are Values, and Why Do They Matter?
Values are the guiding principles that give our lives direction. Unlike goals, which are things we achieve and check off a list, values are ongoing and shape how we live every day. Think of them as a compass rather than a destination. For example, if you value kindness, you can express that value in countless ways—through your relationships, your work, or even how you treat yourself.
When we’re not in touch with our values, life can start to feel unfulfilling, even if we’re doing everything “right.” Maybe you have a great job but feel disconnected from your work. Or you’re in a relationship but feel like something is missing. This disconnect often leads to stress, dissatisfaction, and a sense that something just isn’t quite right. The good news? You can realign with your values at any time.
Exploring Your Values
Identifying and connecting with your values can provide deep insight into what truly matters to you. Here’s how:
1. Clarify What Matters Most
One of the first steps in values exploration is identifying your core values. This process often involves reflecting on questions like:
What kind of person do I want to be?
What do I want to stand for in life?
When have I felt most fulfilled or proud of myself?
By examining different life domains—relationships, career, personal growth, health, and more—you can see where your values shine through.
2. Notice Where You Feel Stuck
Sometimes, our actions don’t align with our values, and this can cause distress. Maybe you value connection, but fear or self-doubt keeps you from reaching out to loved ones. Or perhaps you value health but struggle with motivation to take care of your body. Recognizing these barriers is the first step toward making a change.
3. Take Meaningful Action
Once you’re clear on your values, the next step is taking committed action. This doesn’t have to be a massive life overhaul. Small, consistent actions that align with your values can create meaningful change over time. If you value connection, that might mean sending a text to a friend, scheduling a coffee date, or simply being more present in conversations. If you value growth, it could mean reading a book, learning a new skill, or setting small challenges for yourself.
Progress over perfection is key—it’s about showing up for the things that matter to you, even in small ways.
How I Use Values Exploration in Sessions
In our sessions, I integrate values work as a foundation for creating meaningful change. Together, we will explore what truly matters to you and identify areas where you may feel disconnected.
I often use exercises such as values clarification worksheets, guided reflection, and real-life behavioral experiments to help you gain clarity and take meaningful steps forward. Whether it’s navigating relationships, career challenges, or personal growth, our work will be centered on aligning your actions with your core values so that you can move toward a more fulfilling life.
Living a Values-Driven Life
When you start living in alignment with your values, life feels more fulfilling—not because everything is perfect, but because your actions reflect what truly matters to you. Challenges and difficult emotions don’t disappear, but they become easier to navigate when you know you’re moving in a direction that’s meaningful.
If you’re feeling stuck or disconnected from your values, therapy can be a great place to explore and reconnect with what matters most. By focusing on your values, you can take meaningful action and build a life that aligns with your deepest priorities.
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